Preteens are a confusing time which is overwhelming with too many emotions and choices to make. It is quite natural to feel anger, irritability and also sudden outbursts which sometimes can be dangerous to your social circle. Why is the anger? The body is going through several changes, physiological changes as well as hormonal ones. While trying to cope with the several activities you juggle, it is quite certain that at a certain point of time you are engulfed with unknown anger. Ironically, the reason for the anger is something and the target could be an innocent person. Anger also spoils friendships leaving you lonely and unhappy. Feelings like anger is natural but must be expressed in a non-aggressive way. It is always best to talk it out calmly.
Have you noticed your parents telling you that you have changed so much? Have you been receiving a sermon everyday about good behavior? This is because it is tough for your parents too. This is a phase that is beautiful and most things can be managed with little love, patience and communication. Arvind was in grade VI and was not selected as the team leader for an event. Though he excelled in the field, this time it was not his turn to lead the group. He would often get crabby and started avoiding company. A considerate teacher noticed this change and counseled him on the subject. Arvind too realized it before it was too late. In fact, he offered to help the leader with his skills. The result was that he was instantly liked by his juniors and friends.
Humility is often the best way to avoid any conflict. We all know that it is not possible to identically match other persons view or opinion. Though at times you can bring up your point with words like…. I believe, I think, in my opinion. At all times there is no need for aggression but politeness in tone and body language is acceptable. It is not a rule that you need to speak to ONLY elders respectfully. Every person needs respect and acknowledgement.
To err is human! We all make mistakes. Saying a meaningful sorry is a perfect way to mend any errors that you commit. Anger of the silent form is also very disastrous to your morale. We all need to grow and preteen time is the best time to interact, explore and spread smiles. While it may possible that you are gullible to certain things, there is no way you need to cow down in order to subject yourself to peer pressure or herd mentality. Stay simple, sweet, and embrace the goodness of good friends and simple living. You can always put before others your opinion on any subject matter without offending their feelings. Anger is a natural emotion that needs an outlet or expression. Aggressive anger spoils friendships but persuasive speech and a calm profile will make you the winner. Easier said than done, stay cool and grow every day with love and confidence.
